Good times Bad times
Well, before I begin on what I want to say today, I found this flash presentation on my friend's blog on stereotypes. Considering some of my readers are hardcore fans of my blog, ie you only patronise my blog, I decided that you have to see this flash presentation cos it basically stereotyped males and females. Though I dun really agree with some of the stereotypes, I must agree with the one regarding females going to the toilet (not meant to discriminate anyone). Perhaps what depicted in that section is more commonly seen in schools than anywhere else. Anyway, just watch and see.
The normal human life is not perfect, meaning that there bound to be ups and downs. Maybe ups will come after the downs and the downs wil come after the ups or both will come together. But as Ronan Keating sang, 'Life is a rollercoaster'. We cannot do anything about what is beyond our control. But what we can do is to adjust our mindsets and the way we adjust our mindsets towards things will determine how we handles whatever ups and downs we experience in life. It actually doesn't matter how much bad times we have, cos bad times are meant to test us and make us grow. Actually I have touched on this issue for quite a number of posts. For some quick reference, in case my readers want to refresh their memories, you can refer to my 13 Dec century post, the 12th Day 4 Jan post, and of course there are many more here and there. Yeah, in case you wanna say, I take on a bright outlook on things, though sometimes there can be times when troubles seem too much for me to be optimistic. But we must bear in minds, bad times are bound to come. We have to face bad times one day or another. Then we must ask ourselves, do we want to find ourselves telling ourselves 'we are dead' and allow ourselves to rot away, internally as well as externally?
To end off, I will want to relate a story. It's based on a true story, just I jumbled up the order and gave the characters pseudonyms. There is this guy, let his name be John. John comes from an unfortunate background. His mother passed away when he was young, leaving him and his siblings and his father behind. His father therefore has to take on the role of both the mother and father. Soon, John found himself working to supplement his family income, while coping with his school work. In fact, John used to study in a top school, which his father wants him to go. His school work however suffered a great deal and he begins to look at life in a negative way. In fact, he loses confidence in himeself too and began to feel insecure, feeling that bad things always happen to him and there can't be any good thing happening to him.
Then enter Alexandra. Alexandra comes from a more fortunate family than John. She knows John for quite a few years and over the years, begins to take a liking on John. John, for all your information, is not that good looking, so Alexandra didn't really fall for his look. He wasn't that smart too, so she couldn't have wanted to use him for her studies... in fact Alexandra is older than John by two years. So, Alexandra appreciated who John is and falls for him. As time goes by, it became obvious that Alexandra likes John, through all her actions and on Friendship Day, she even gave him a boutique of flowers... not something which Alexandra will do to any guys. But the problem is that John is so negative in his outlook in life that he dun believe that there is this very nice girl called Alexandra who likes him so much. To him, there is no such good deal in life (my foot) and there must be something Alexandra wants from him (as if there is anything she can want from him).
So the relationship between the two really goes into a rollercoaster ride. The stalemate held on for ten months or so. And finally John accepted Alexandra, after coming to terms that he missed Alexandra a lot too and that he appreciated her presence in her life too. But due to his insecurities and his pessimistic outlook, the relationship is yet to be tested...
So, what am I trying to say here? Because of his own insecurity, he almost missed out on someone who really cares for him so much. Because of his pessimistic attitude, he refused to believe that good things can happen in his life. All these sprouted from his past experiences. I have not mentioned this, but the couple came together just before Alexandra was prepared to give up John. Well..., my point is that it's human to worry about things, but certainly not good for mental health to begin seeing things in bad light, not good for relationship too.
Okay, story telling time's over. I shall write again. See ya. Till my fans call for me again.
The normal human life is not perfect, meaning that there bound to be ups and downs. Maybe ups will come after the downs and the downs wil come after the ups or both will come together. But as Ronan Keating sang, 'Life is a rollercoaster'. We cannot do anything about what is beyond our control. But what we can do is to adjust our mindsets and the way we adjust our mindsets towards things will determine how we handles whatever ups and downs we experience in life. It actually doesn't matter how much bad times we have, cos bad times are meant to test us and make us grow. Actually I have touched on this issue for quite a number of posts. For some quick reference, in case my readers want to refresh their memories, you can refer to my 13 Dec century post, the 12th Day 4 Jan post, and of course there are many more here and there. Yeah, in case you wanna say, I take on a bright outlook on things, though sometimes there can be times when troubles seem too much for me to be optimistic. But we must bear in minds, bad times are bound to come. We have to face bad times one day or another. Then we must ask ourselves, do we want to find ourselves telling ourselves 'we are dead' and allow ourselves to rot away, internally as well as externally?
To end off, I will want to relate a story. It's based on a true story, just I jumbled up the order and gave the characters pseudonyms. There is this guy, let his name be John. John comes from an unfortunate background. His mother passed away when he was young, leaving him and his siblings and his father behind. His father therefore has to take on the role of both the mother and father. Soon, John found himself working to supplement his family income, while coping with his school work. In fact, John used to study in a top school, which his father wants him to go. His school work however suffered a great deal and he begins to look at life in a negative way. In fact, he loses confidence in himeself too and began to feel insecure, feeling that bad things always happen to him and there can't be any good thing happening to him.
Then enter Alexandra. Alexandra comes from a more fortunate family than John. She knows John for quite a few years and over the years, begins to take a liking on John. John, for all your information, is not that good looking, so Alexandra didn't really fall for his look. He wasn't that smart too, so she couldn't have wanted to use him for her studies... in fact Alexandra is older than John by two years. So, Alexandra appreciated who John is and falls for him. As time goes by, it became obvious that Alexandra likes John, through all her actions and on Friendship Day, she even gave him a boutique of flowers... not something which Alexandra will do to any guys. But the problem is that John is so negative in his outlook in life that he dun believe that there is this very nice girl called Alexandra who likes him so much. To him, there is no such good deal in life (my foot) and there must be something Alexandra wants from him (as if there is anything she can want from him).
So the relationship between the two really goes into a rollercoaster ride. The stalemate held on for ten months or so. And finally John accepted Alexandra, after coming to terms that he missed Alexandra a lot too and that he appreciated her presence in her life too. But due to his insecurities and his pessimistic outlook, the relationship is yet to be tested...
So, what am I trying to say here? Because of his own insecurity, he almost missed out on someone who really cares for him so much. Because of his pessimistic attitude, he refused to believe that good things can happen in his life. All these sprouted from his past experiences. I have not mentioned this, but the couple came together just before Alexandra was prepared to give up John. Well..., my point is that it's human to worry about things, but certainly not good for mental health to begin seeing things in bad light, not good for relationship too.
Okay, story telling time's over. I shall write again. See ya. Till my fans call for me again.
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